I’d like to tell you about my dear friend Kate, who is the best dater I have EVER seen. Good-looking men are drawn to her like flies to a glowing lantern! Men who will treat her like a princess are lined up at her doorstep. She isn’t the “hot smokin’ babe” that you may imagine, but she is very cute. She has red hair, freckles, hazel eyes, a curvy body, about 5’2″…Oh, and did I mention she always has a huge smile on her face? As a matchmaker, I knew she was a shining example of how one could get a date. I’ve long observed her irresistible sweetness, and want to tell you what her secret is:

She Dresses and Acts the Part: Kate clearly loves being a woman. At her last Eight at Eight, she wore a fitted jacket with ruffles, paired a skirt with heels, and smelled divine. She delights in being a girl and her outfit screamed, “Ladies and gentleman watch me pick up a handsome man!” All of the other women at the event wore plain black blazers or dark colors. Needless to say, they were simply out-sparkled.

She Lets Others Shine: She’s engaged and engaging. She sounds excited when listening to everyone’s life story. If someone told her he was an accountant, she would respond “Oh, that’s so interesting. I am always impressed with people who are good with money Tell me about your clients. Do you have multiple clients or do you work for just one? (Careful to throw in an arm touch here and a look of fascination there)”. The person she is talking to feels like the most interesting person in the world at that moment. The guys can barely wait to finish their conversation so that they can ask her out. Definitely, a sight to see!

She Doesn’t Have a Type: Kate’s #1 rule in dating: If he seems nice enough and worth her time to get to know, why not? Kate simply loves men! She gives herself at least a 15 year age range. She finds older men fascinating and sophisticated. The younger bucks keep her attention and up the energy level of her dates. Kate is also open-minded on ethnicity. She sees that 5’7″ guy with a foreign accent, the one that everyone else blew off instantly, and expects to have a nice date with him. And guess what? On that date, she found out that he has traveled all over the world and is hugely successful.

As busy, single professionals, I think most of us walk into a room and waste no time before judging who is “dateable”. Kate never ends the game before it starts. She knows the rules, plays hard, and has a winning attitude – and never forgets to smile.